The Macquarie Dictionary defines racism as: “the belief that human races have distinctive characteristics which determine their respective cultures, usually involving the idea that one’s own race is superior and has the right to rule or dominate others.”
- Wikipedia, “Racism“
This past week has been busy. As was the past weekend. With that, I apologize for the lack of update last weekend.
This week, I bring you the search for the ultimate man, and the response, but first I’m going to post something from the rants and raves. Who said racism or ideals of slavery was dead?
why i hire blacks and mexicans (ockwood)
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Date: 2009-07-10, 10:54AM EDTits real simple – i pay them less. reason being they need less. white workers send there children to private schools and live in larger single family homes and have better health care-this is why they require a higher pay scale. also white workers have a plan. they are there to learn how to do the business and open there own place. this requires money management-savings. since others will spend their hole check on malt liquor – crack – eating fast food they are broke by Monday – they have to come back to work. whites don’t – the only reason they do is the plan. i only want to hire people that live day to day not the ones that are aware of the future. you know you complain about slavery but by your way of life and my pay scales it will never end. see you Monday morning. go ahead and party
Thank god all I do is sit around drinking malt liquor and smoking blunts without a plan for the future. Thank god for over generalizations. Sometimes I think it’s time to move out of the South, and then I wonder if it’s different anywhere else. I’d hate to inform this person that my parents send my brother to a private school. I think they’d also hate to find out the square footage of my parents house.
DNA studies do not indicate that separate classifiable subspecies (races) exist within modern humans. While different genes for physical traits such as skin and hair color can be identified between individuals, no consistent patterns of genes across the human genome exist to distinguish one race from another. There also is no genetic basis for divisions of human ethnicity. People who have lived in the same geographic region for many generations may have some alleles in common, but no allele will be found in all members of one population and in no members of any other.
I’d hate to inform this person that I’ve a plan for the future; thought it does change because I’m young and adapt to the changes that need to take place, but I’ve a general outline in place. I’d hate to inform this person that one day I plan on owning my own business. I’d also hate to inform this person that ‘whole’ and ‘hole’ have two different meanings, along with ‘there,’ ‘they’re,’ and ‘their’. I think I’s goin to go smoke my crack pipe and drink on sum malt liqua! Seriously?
This does bring up an interesting topic, subtle racism. I’ll expand on that in the next post, though.
This next one is lengthy. Hence the reason it’s after the jump. Although, I can honestly say I’ve been at this point a time or two, wanting a decent guy, but this list of ‘perfection’ is just a bit ridiculous. I think it’s summed up succintly with the term unrealistic expectations. I don’t think it’s bad to want the perfect guy. I want the perfect life. But I know that’s not going to happen. Life isn’t perfect. It’s messy and complicated. And I don’t think it’s wrong for the following Craigslister to have this list of do’s and don’ts. There’s nothing wrong with preference. Maybe just ease up a bit.
Not even sure if this exists but… – w4m – 21 (Atlanta, GA)
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Date: 2009-07-10, 11:28AM EDTOk so this is absolutely a last resort situation. I go on date after date with complete douche bags or losers. I don’t know what’s in the water in Atlanta but it seems as if every guy I come in contact with is either sweet as pie for a while and then quickly switches up his game. OR he starts off being completely lame or rude. I can’t express how annoyed I am. Not upset, or sad or anything…but beyond ANNOYED. So where every other female talks about what they want in a relationship, I’d like to be pleasantly surprised. So, instead, I’ll tell you what I don’t want:
****I’ve attached pictures of men that I would be interested in physically. I’m not looking for exact replicas of these men but you can at least get an idea since I’ve been getting responses to this ad by men that are EXACTLY what I said I don’t want. (and even after including this little segment, I’ve continued to get responses from people I don’t want.) And, just like anyone else in the world, if I see your message without a picture attached, I won’t read it. I’ll be brutally honest here: I won’t “waste my time” getting to know you if I know there’s a chance (if even the smallest chance in the world) that I may not be interested in you after seeing your picture. I’m sorry but that’s just how it goes. Now I’ll wait to get 100 messages about this segment alone. Read all of this before responding pleeeeassse.****For the most part, I don’t care what religion you are but I do require a sturdy belief in THE monotheistic God. So that means, not into athiests, pagans/wiccans, etc.
My friends and family are very important to me and I’d like to meet someone who feels the same. However, no one else, other than myself, makes decisions for me or can sway my beliefs/opinions. I think a lot of guys, honestly, care too damn much what their friends say and change their opinions/choices based on that. Not into that either.
I’m all for family men. But not for a man that already has his own family (ie- children). I’m not interested in children right now or anyone who has children right now. I’m sorry.
When getting to know a guy, (keywords: getting to know) I want to get to know YOU. Not you and 20 people. I can meet them later, doll. For now, let’s work on whether or not we should know each other in the first place.
I’m open to dating men of all ethnicities but without trying to make generalizations here, this is what I don’t want: thugs, rednecks, scene kids, no “hey girrrr wuz gud?,” no frat braaaaahs. You don’t have to be in a frat to be a frat braah. No preppy style/jocks.
No one who was raised to think women should be submissive and hold their tongue.
I know a lot of people don’t believe musical interests play a role in getting to know a person but I don’t believe that’s true. Please don’t respond to this if you listen to Nickelback/Staind/Mudvayne/Soulja Boi (I will not tell em’)/Rascal Flats (or whatever)/Buckcherry/Hinder/Fall Out Boy/Panic at the Disco. Basically, if your favorite music plays on the Top 40 New Rock/Country/Rap List, I won’t be interested.
I think it’s stupid for people to dress or “look like” the stereotype of the music they listen to. I have my own style, for sure. However, I have made a pact with myself to try to never have only one color in my hair. I naturally have dark brown hair and have been spotted with a random dash of purple in it or green or blue. Trust me, it doesn’t look like I work at Hot Topic. I’ve managed amazing and high paying jobs with this hair if that tells you anything. Ha…
I digress…I absolutely love cars. I am obsesed with cars. But I don’t care what you drive and if all you can contribute to a conversation is how much you love your car, I’m done.
Trust me, I have no issue with a guy taking care of himself and looking great. But if your whole life is working out and having ginormous muscles…that’s just not my type.
I know everyone says this, but I’m really looking for a genuine person. Not someone who is trendy or hops on bandwagons. I also find it far fetched when every one of your friends has the exact same interests as you.
I am extremely anti-homophobic. But I am not interested in bi-curious or bi-sexual men.
I am a vegan however I am not all interested in forcing my beliefs on anyone. Anyone’s diet choice is not necessarily a deal-breaker for me. However, I’ve noticed some guys hate the fact that I’m a vegan (which still makes no sense to me) so that’s why I’m putting it out there.
I like men that are independent. I’d prefer for a guy to be living out on his own but if he is at home, then he should be paying bills.
I don’t want someone that has a “well, this is it!” attitude. I want someone ambitious who has goals and knows life is what you make it. I want someone who is always trying to better himself.
I do like dinner and movies but I’d prefer something more creative. Museums, parks, etc. I don’t need to go anywhere ridiculously fancy. I’d just like for someone to have some thought put behind a date.
I find myself to be unique and very attractive. I want someone with the confidence to feel the same. I like tall guys who are slender.
I don’t have an eyecolor preference. I just know I like eyes that look like they have life behind them.
I like men with a thick head of hair. Usually longer. But I’m not opposed to men with shorter hair as long as it’s not frosted, or spiked, or gelled in any way.I want a man that exudes self satisfaction and sexuality. Now don’t get too excited. By sexuality, I mean a natural sexual swagger/charisma. PLEASE NOTE: SEXY DOES NOT MEAN SEX. Just think Jim Morrison. Any guy I’ve ever known can say they understand what I mean by that when I say “Think Jim Morrison.” Which leads me to believe most men know what natural sexiness is…they just don’t have it.
I’m 21 and having a great time! I’m attracted to older men but not over 27! So if you are over 27,
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respond!I don’t believe standards and morals should only apply to women. I want a man who is what he wants: true, considerate, loyal, fun, interesting, intelligent, charming (for love of God could I please meet someone charming? Holy shit.), polite (and again…for the love of God…), respectful!!!!, ambitious, exciting.
I don’t want anyone who is (or has ever been) a womanizer.
Please please please please…love your mom. PLEASE.
IF YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP, DATING SOMEONE, BEING INTIMATE WTH SOMEONE CURRENTLY, IF YOU ARE FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS WITH SOMEONE, IF YOU’RE LOOKING FOR A REBOUND BECAUSE YOU’RE STILL NOT OVER YOUR EX, IF ALL YOU DO IS TALK ABOUT YOUR EX (don’t do that), GO AWAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY. I want a “one woman” type of guy.
And please be honest, guys. If you know you’re not at all what I’m looking for…and a month from now I’ll find out you’re a total tool or a liar, or a douche, or a fake, or anything else, that will be a waste of time for both of us.
If you respond to this, I would like you to attach a picture with your message or I absolutely won’t respond. So that doesn’t mean send me an email saying you want my facebook or myspace link or for me to send a picture first. With in minutes of posting this I got a ridiculous amount of replies. And I’m taken aback by the fact that EVERY SINGLE GUY has been the complete opposite of what I posted. Please take the time out to really read this and don’t respond to this if the man I’m describing is the man you wish you were or hope to be. I want this to be the man you are. Put yourself in my shoes here (not literally…not into crossdressers either haha). I’m sure you’d want to know what the person responding to your ad looks like.
Thanks and I’m hoping at least one decent person reads this.
And the subsequent response, from a female nonetheless, whom I applaud. Although, to be fair, the previous poster was young. That idealism will quickly be broken once she realizes perfection doesn’t exist and to lower the standards just a bit:
Re: not even sure if this exists… but – w4m – 28 (covington)
Reply to: pers-qk8ca-1262557546@craigslist.org [Errors when replying to ads?]
Date: 2009-07-10, 5:23AM EDTJesus Christ, your not picky are you. You want your guy to be so many different things its rediculous. I mean I read the article with hopes, but after reading the whole thing, even if i was this perfect guy, I wouldn’t respond. Maybe if you were a perfect 10, and wanted someone perfect like you, I could see it. But common we both know thats not the case. Get off your high horse and like a guy for who he is, even if he’s not everything on your list. There are guys out there that are not “perfect”, and still not douchbags.
Message boards are fun! Not necessisarily to participate in, but to watch unfold. Like a drunk stumbling straight towards a busy intersection , and you kind of want to help but also want to see if he’ll make it acrosss.
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Alex // 20 July, 2009 at 12:52 pm |
The first Craigslist post dude is total dumbass. People can be so ignorant sometimes, and it’s never okay!
~A